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5 Communication Skills To Enhance Your Relationship



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5 Communication Skills To Enhance Your Relationship


Imagine planning a delightful day at the beach with your family, only to meet with an unexpected storm. The weather, an external factor beyond your control, hinders your plans and leaves you disappointed. This is akin to communication in relationships. Just as good weather is a prerequisite for a beach day, so is a conducive environment for effective communication. Let's explore how you can create that environment and improve communication with your partner.


5 Communication Skills To Enhance Your Relationship


Step 1: Assume Responsibility

Effective communication starts with accepting responsibility. Blaming or shaming your partner will only create a disconnect. Instead, recognize your power to shape your relationship. Shift your focus from your partner's actions to your own, and make a conscious decision to improve your communication.


Step 2: Evaluate Your Communication Style

Examine how you communicate with your partner. Does your conversation often involve criticism, judgment, or complaints? Such an approach may make your partner defensive and limit healthy communication. Remember, trust is essential for effective communication. Your partner needs to feel safe enough to share their thoughts and feelings with you.


Try these tips when you feel like criticizing or complaining:

- Take a deep breath.

- Compliment your partner.

- Express gratitude.

- Reflect on their good qualities.

- Say "I love you."

- Replace criticism with positivity.

- Ask open-ended questions.

- Be cautious with your words.

- Use non-verbal cues like eye contact, touch, and tone of voice.

Remember, it's not just about what you communicate, but how you do it.


Step 3: Establish a Safe and Loving Atmosphere

Creating a safe and loving environment in your relationship encourages open communication. When your partner feels appreciated, loved, and significant, they're more likely to share their feelings with you. Start by showing appreciation for your partner and reassure them that you're a dependable ally.


Step 4: Dedicate Time for Communication

Effective communication requires time and attention. Set aside dedicated time each week to engage in meaningful conversations with your partner. Turn off distractions like the TV or phone, relax, and focus on connecting with each other. Regular communication will help foster a habit of open dialogue in your relationship.


Step 5: Self-Evaluation


Self-evaluation is key to enhancing communication. Ask yourself the following questions:

- How can I express my needs in a way that makes my partner feel loved and appreciated?

- Where does our communication need improvement?

- How can I make my partner feel safe and loved enough to open up?

- What do I need from my partner?

- What can my partner need from me?

- What can I add or remove from our relationship to improve communication?


In conclusion, strive to foster trust, vulnerability, safety, significance, connection, gratitude, and certainty in your relationship. Be kind to yourself, be patient, and don't give up. Improving communication is a gradual process, but with time and effort, you can enhance your relationship significantly.


If your relationship is in distress or your emotions are high, it can be difficult to navigate changes in communication alone. Relationship Coaching can give you specific tools and support to make these changes and increase the connection between you and your partner. Get in touch with me today or book your complimentary consultation online.


I hope to see you soon,

Jane

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