Updated: Jan 8
There is understandable confusion with Relationship coaching and Relationship counselling, and so I thought I would delve into each one so you can decide which one is best for you and your relationship.
Helps you to identify and address problems and issues in the marriage.
Focuses on the past and the present.
Helps you to deeply talk through past events that are still traumatising you or limiting your happiness.
Helps you to address mental health issues within marriages such as depression or alcohol/substance abuse.
Allows you to speak freely about your partner and your relationship whilst you are there.
Supports people with mental health conditions.
Helps people to cope that are struggling or overwhelmed.
Relationship coaching is a confidential, non-judgemental and empowering process that you commit to, which will inspire, guide and empower you to achieve your relationship goals.
In Relationship Coaching, we create a bespoke goal or mission statement for your relationship, and we work together to create that for you both. We aim to move you forward and towards that from the first or second session.
Relationship coaching is a proactive process where we use specific strategies personalised for you and your relationship and agree on actions that you will take in the week(s) following the session.
During the Relationship coaching sessions, the coach will ask you questions and use strategies to explore your marriage, you and your partners' wants and needs in the marriage and also in life. Your coach will then suggest strategies and actions that you can take to have the marriage you desire.
Relationship coaching shows you what is going well in your relationship and continues to build on that.
Relationship coaching is available to anyone who has relationships, which of course, we all do! Whether you are a married couple, common-law couple, are single or have an In-law or friendship problem, then marriage coaching is available to you.
There doesn’t need to be anything ‘wrong’ in your relationship to have relationship coaching; you can simply come to learn more about how to take your relationship to the next level of awesome or to address one issue.
In relationship coaching the Coach does not ‘take sides’ with either party. It is a very fair and non – judgmental journey that considers each persons’ happiness and significance and requires that each person focuses on their own responsibilities within the relationship and in their own lives.
Relationship coaching can change a marriage by coaching only one person from the marriage.
Relationship coaching helps you to clarify what you need from your partner, what is missing and what is working. The coaching sessions will focus on how you can feel, how you want to feel when with your partner and how to make that happen.
Significant changes and improvements can be made right from the first relationship coaching session.
Relationship coaching explores your marriage like you have never done before. It creates so much clarity and understanding that the way forward seems much more straightforward than you would have imagined.
Relationship coaching can enable you to create more understanding, empathy and compassion in your relationship.
Relationship coaching focuses on the present and moving forward.
Relationship coaching is empowering because you become proactive. There is no blaming or shaming the other person; each persons' focus is on themselves and what they can do to improve the marriage. This focus takes you out of feeling helpless and makes you feel stronger and more in control and helps you to change your perception of the marriage and your partner with greater ease. It is also quite a relief to let go of trying to change the other person!
Relationship coaching can quickly change your perspective on the relationship and your partner. Changing your point of view from the start helps to change your situation swiftly.
Relationship coaching can help you to have clarity on where and what your relationship is, and then you can build on that.
Relationship coaching helps each person to recognize and value their own and each others’ strengths.
Relationship coaching reminds you of why you got together in the first place and how to recreate those feelings.
Relationship coaching enables couples to reconnect, love again and allow trust back in.
Relationship coaching helps people feel better about themselves and lifts self-esteem.
Relationship coaching can help you to know more about yourself and your partner.
Relationship coaching allows the true you to show up to the relationship; when this happens, you will feel great about yourself regardless of what anyone else is doing!
Relationship coaching can free you from past destructive relationship patterns and show you how to be in a healthy, loving relationship.
In a nutshell:
Counselling would probably be the better option for you if you:
Have mental health concerns within your relationship
Simply want to talk about your relationship
Want to focus on problems and issues
Want to work on something that happened in the past
Coaching would suit you better if you:
Want to know HOW to make things better
Are ready to take action to change your relationship
Are willing to take responsibility for your part in the relationship
Want to focus on what is going well even if you can’t see it yet
Are ready to make your relationship a priority