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The Bitter Truth: Why People Don't Value Their Marriage Until It's Over

Sad woman due to marriage being over

Marriage, an institution built on love, commitment, and shared dreams, has been an integral part of human society for centuries. It serves as a foundation for families and a source of companionship and support. Yet, it's disheartening to witness the frequency with which couples fail to appreciate the value of their union until it's on the brink of collapse. In this blog, we'll explore the reasons why people often fail to cherish their marriages until it's too late or the marriage is over..

1. Taking Things for Granted:

One of the most common reasons for people not valuing their marriage is the tendency to take their partner, and their relationship for granted. When a relationship becomes familiar and routine, it's easy to overlook the efforts and sacrifices made by one's spouse. The small acts of love and kindness that were once cherished start to go unnoticed, leading to a gradual decline in appreciation.

Many people can unconsciously assume that their partner will always be there, that they will put up with very little effort, and often they pay so little attention to the relationship that they don't even realise that there is a problem until their partner is ready to leave or separate.

People sometimes simply don't see what they have because of their partner or marriage. They don't think about what their marriage brings them.

If your marriage ended tomorrow what else would you lose? How would this affect your other relationships, your children, your finances, your business/job, your home, your mental health, your social life?

Your marriage is one thing that affects every other area of your life, and yet, people don't see the value in it day to day until it needs repair.

2. Neglecting Communication:

Communication is the lifeblood of any relationship, and its absence can breed resentment and misunderstanding. Over time, couples may fall into a pattern of poor communication, assuming their partner knows what they need or want. The lack of open and honest dialogue prevents the resolution of underlying issues, further eroding the foundation of the marriage.

3. Prioritizing External Demands:

In the chaos of modern life, career pressures, familial obligations, and personal ambitions often take precedence over nurturing the marital bond. Couples find themselves caught up in a never-ending race to meet societal expectations and achieve individual goals, neglecting the needs of their relationship. As a result, the marriage becomes a casualty of the external demands placed upon it.

4. Fading Intimacy and Connection:

Physical and emotional intimacy is vital in a marriage, fostering a sense of closeness and connection. However, as time passes, couples may allow these aspects of their relationship to wane. They may become complacent in their physical interactions, reducing them to a mere routine. The emotional connection may also suffer, leaving partners feeling distant and unfulfilled.

5. Unrealistic Expectations:

In today's world, we are bombarded with idealized depictions of relationships through media and social platforms. These unrealistic portrayals can create a distorted perception of what a marriage should be like. When reality fails to live up to these unattainable standards, individuals may become disillusioned, leading to dissatisfaction and a lack of value placed on their own relationship.

6. Lack of Self-Reflection:

Self-reflection is crucial for personal growth and the betterment of relationships. However, many people fail to introspect and understand their own role in the deterioration of their marriage. Instead, they tend to blame their partner for the problems and overlook their own contributions to the discord. This lack of self-awareness inhibits the development of empathy and prevents them from valuing their marriage.


It is a heart breaking reality that many people don't fully appreciate the value of their marriage until it's on the brink of collapse. By taking their partner for granted, neglecting communication, prioritizing external demands, allowing intimacy to fade, succumbing to unrealistic expectations, and failing to engage in self-reflection, couples unknowingly undermine the foundation of their relationship.

To prevent this unfortunate outcome, it is crucial for individuals to be proactive in valuing and nurturing their marriage from the very beginning. By practicing gratitude, fostering open and honest communication, making their relationship a priority, actively investing in intimacy and connection, embracing realistic expectations, and engaging in self-reflection, couples can cultivate a deeper appreciation for their union.

Remember, a thriving marriage requires continual effort, love, and dedication. It's essential to recognize the value of your relationship every day and cherish it as the precious bond it is,

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